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  • Writer's pictureAnya Smirnova

A coaching paradox

Updated: Aug 13, 2021

We do not like to be deceived but willingly deceive ourselves. We know it's time to make a change: to review our career direction, find work-life balance, improve our relationships, start exercising and eating better. We endlessly ponder projects that we want to implement but do not take action.

Ongoing tasks distract our attention. We believe that there is a lot of time ahead. We reassure ourselves that from Monday, starting next month, from the new year, we will definitely begin to live as we intended.

In anticipation of the changes that will happen someday, we let the present pass us by - the only time we really live.

Do this experiment. Look closely at the dark point for 10 seconds, and you will see how the grey fog melts and dissipates around. The same thing happens in coaching when we are fully focused on a specific task and use neuroscience and human behaviour tools to make it simple to remove the fog around your life conundrums.

P.S. Seth Godin wrote this brilliant article on the coaching paradox: “The paradox is that the very things that hold us back are the reasons we need a coach in the first place.”


Anya Smirnova helps working parents find the joy in life and go through life shifts, because shift happens! She does it through deep transformational one-on-one work. Reach out to Anya for a no-obligation chemistry coaching session.



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